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Answers take time. Answers don’t come from direct questions. I’m sorry it is not quick or easy, but life isn’t like that. Life and connections are made over time and with a genuine interest. You can’t force this to get what you need. This isn’t about you anyway. You are meant to be here forContinue reading “Connections?”

We’ve waited months, years? I’ve left messages on a phone that’s never answered. Direct questions. Generic questions. Frankly, pointless questions. You do this and I let you. (this is the double empathy problem playing out in all its glory) You even ask me things I don’t want to my child to hear. I mean, weContinue reading “Scraps..”

You think we want the same things because what kind of parent would I be if I didn’t?We all know your goal.. School is best. School is friends. School is GCSEs. School is success. School is future. This goal (obsession if you like) of school is yours not ours. Our way doesn’t come with pompContinue reading “Golden Ticket..”

Here we go.. The positive spin. Whatever was working you are taking away. “Because they are doing so well.” Here we go.. Things have picked up so now its time to do without. The Rollercoaster of Support. The Inconsistency. The Token Gesture. Years of Give and Takeaway. Up and then down. But what you forgetContinue reading “The Rollercoaster..”

I want you to see what you’ve done, that this is not okay. You kept me in the dark for years and got away with it because I trusted you. I’m sad, mad and really disappointed. So I keep trying. All those meetings that I don’t get paid for. Those emails and waiting, oh theContinue reading “Time..”

The balancing act. The juggling. The keeping it all together. “Have you had a bad morning?” No, just an average one. You ask me about my job, my career. This I am holding on to by a fingernail. This, is having less and less relevance. My job, my real one is hanging in there. ThisContinue reading “An Average Morning..”

Unfortunately many of us have either been in, or know someone who has been in a relationship with someone that is completely and utterly wrong for them.  Now  – imagine one of your friends is going out with Gary.    Gary is a complete git.  He does not care about your friend and does not haveContinue reading “Gary The Git”

You say these things but what do they actually mean? When my child is at home and not sleeping and talking. You can say all you like in the way of positives, but who is that helping? Not my child who comes home and crashes and breaks. I try to tell you over and over.Continue reading “Not Helping..”

Where are the courses on pathways? I didn’t even know I could apply for an EHCP myself. Where is ‘an easy guide to SEN departments’?I’ve lost days leaving voicemails in the hope someone picks up/knows the answer. Why do I need to go through them to get to them? Where are the autistic advocates? Where’sContinue reading “Courses..”

When we are working with outcomes, targets and assessments everything is measured and quantified. Everything has to be proved. Everything must be fixed. (And there is always a timeframe) Can you evidence that? So there is no room for being unsure, or not knowing or even that things just are. Because we need to explain,Continue reading “It’s Okay..”