Author Archives: MissingTheMark

29 months ago I saw you fall And I dropped everything. I gave it everything I could because I knew I needed to do this. You were ill. Oh my, you were so ill. It was time for nourishment, not arguments.. It was time for us. We stopped with the douchebags. We hunkered down. WeContinue reading “Well Again..”

‘But what about GCSEs?’ Even if you achieve them, they are not guarantees to life of happiness, wellness or success. ‘But don’t you want to give them the best chance?’ Of course, every parent wants this but they use this crafty phrasebook to catch us in the net of guilt and send us back. ‘CareerContinue reading “What About?”

Special. Different. Other. Imagine if our children were reminded of what they can do more than what they can’t? Instead of learning how to hide who they are (until they break) Instead of fix to fit we had options and flexibility. What if we made adaptions that worked for everyone? Strength based learning, emotional consistency,Continue reading “Special..”

You may be going into this year with gusto and confidence, a fresh start ready to deal with everything head on (even packed a notebook and have a folder this time) You may be entering it with rage or frustration that you’ve let this mess drag on for as long as it has. You mayContinue reading “New or Same?”

Sometimes supports can be used to help that child learn/attend. But what if what they are trying access is not appropriate? All we are doing is ticking the attendance box Who are they for? Instead we need to look at the environment and will it work for them? Sometimes support can be (the harsh reality)Continue reading “For Who?”

Have you seen the place? It’s like a beautiful stately home. (That’ll please the grandparents) It even does horse riding. It looks like it’s meant to look. It ticks the boxes. And ‘they’ all want the answers. A quick fix. A solution. But I don’t think that swanky building is for us. Because it’s anContinue reading “Expectation..”

Some things I treasure..(like those pre school days when we cooked, read and played) Some things I put in the bin..(shouting to get to school on time, those sinking feelings when I let comparison creep in) But all of these things are learning. We don’t enter this world full of answers- most of the timeContinue reading “Learning..”

Answers take time. Answers don’t come from direct questions. I’m sorry it is not quick or easy, but life isn’t like that. Life and connections are made over time and with a genuine interest. You can’t force this to get what you need. This isn’t about you anyway. You are meant to be here forContinue reading “Connections?”

We’ve waited months, years? I’ve left messages on a phone that’s never answered. Direct questions. Generic questions. Frankly, pointless questions. You do this and I let you. (this is the double empathy problem playing out in all its glory) You even ask me things I don’t want to my child to hear. I mean, weContinue reading “Scraps..”