Author Archives: MissingTheMark

The thing is they hit you where it hurts.. “Don’t you want to give them the best chance?” “What about friends?” No parent wants to see their child struggling so they send you on training courses. How to be a better parents. How to have a better child. Someone is telling (ever so nicely) thereContinue reading “Things To Watch Out For..”

What do you say about me? When I’m worried that my child has been sat in a corridor for weeks on end and distressed at home.. ‘Mums very anxious’ When you talk about the importance of your job and your workload/number of children you have to deal with, again and I break down because IContinue reading “I Smile..”

Healing didn’t come from egg timers, access to a sensory diet, a time out card, meetings or books about autism geniuses (people just like you) Healing didn’t come from meetings. Healing didn’t come from a home to school book. Healing didn’t come from a hub. Healing didn’t come from group therapy or a checklist. HealingContinue reading “Healing..”

‘Mum’ says: Guilt is not good because guilt doesn’t go away. Guilt has made me tidier than I ever was and more polite than I ever was. Guilt has made me more worried. ‘Mum’ says: That the guilt does other things it brings in blame. Why are they like that? And that says they shouldn’tContinue reading “‘Mum’ says..”

What you don’t see is dinner being made several times and still not eaten because I bought the wrong brand of sauce and the pan tasted lemony. What you don’t see is that I’ve sat up half the night trying to settle them and help them switch off (yes they do have a bath/routine) YouContinue reading “Attendance..”

When you were sick and stressed you needed me but you also rejected me. What no one saw was I was the person who you showed your real distress with. I was your safe place and person but this distress hurt us both. You couldn’t let me near, but at the same time you neededContinue reading “Healing..”

Unit/hub? Sift/separate? Equal/different? Adaptations, to a point or it’s the other place. Solutions for who? I guess it ticks the attendance box. I tell you that you were born who you were meant to be. To be proud of your creative, funny, bright and sensitive self. To be yourself.. (But separately) I suppose it hasContinue reading “Special Unit..”

Dear whom it may concern. I know you are overworked and overstretched and here I am, being ‘that’ parent and asking you to do this, do that.. Like you haven’t got enough to be getting on with. I know you feel I am trying to tell you how to do your job and that ifContinue reading “Visual Supports..”

Ice creams, smiling sticky faces, anoraks and caravans. Those families that actually all go out for a walk. Yesterday it was happy, achieving exam result photos. The other week it was prom. The reminders. The ‘where we are not at’ But it’s okay, you’re okay. We’ll just hang out here a bit longer. Food delivery,Continue reading “Summer Holidays..”

“It’ll be fine!” “They’ve had a great day!” You give me positive spins and tell me not to worry. This is not a safe space. “Have you told them about Albert Einstein and Greta Thunberg?” “They are not like other Autistics I’ve met” You’ve only read the headlines and you are not getting this. ThisContinue reading “Masking..”