About Missing The Mark

Life is short, though I keep this from my children.
Life is short, and I’ve shortened mine
in a thousand delicious, ill-advised ways,
a thousand deliciously ill-advised ways
I’ll keep from my children. The world is at least
fifty percent terrible, and that’s a conservative
estimate, though I keep this from my children.
For every bird there is a stone thrown at a bird.
For every loved child, a child broken, bagged,
sunk in a lake. Life is short and the world
is at least half terrible, and for every kind
stranger, there is one who would break you,
though I keep this from my children. I am trying
to sell them the world. Any decent realtor,
walking you through a real shithole, chirps on
about good bones: This place could be beautiful,
right? You could make this place beautiful.

Maggie Smith, Good Bones.

About Missing The Mark

Eliza is an illustrator, designer and mother.

Her first book- A Comic Guide to Parenting a Child with PDA is out in 2021, published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers.

She also writes and illustrates a blog “Missing the Mark”, a deeply personal and all too human exploration of a mother’s journey navigating the education system and everyday life with a child who can’t go to school.

Deceptively simple illustrations give way to endearingly perceptive and detailed observations, which are often irreverently humorous and highly emotional.

Missing the Mark is not only a beautiful artistic expression of difference in today’s society, it also serves as a thought provoking and valuable contribution to the visibility, acceptance and support of families like Eliza’s. It acts as a way to communicate difficult circumstances with teachers, educators, social workers, other parents and friends of those also experiencing these issues, with the hope of providing a drop more humanity in the world.

“I shared your beautiful and thought-provoking illustrations with colleagues in education psychology today- we all agreed they helped us see the world differently through an important lens. Thank you for sharing with us.” 

For Parents.

How do I help my child who doesn’t want help?

Using her illustrations Eliza Fricker will talk about the characteristics of PDA, anxiety and demand avoidance and how we can best support our children at home and school.

For many families including Eliza’s, finding out about this has been the ‘light bulb moment’ after autism strategies and supports have been ineffective.

Presentation or Consultation

Eliza Fricker can share her presentation to parent groups, coffee mornings, support groups.

1- 1.5 hour presentation includes a Q&A at the end for parents.

Cost is £150.

Eliza also offers one hour private consultations for parents wanting their own advice for their families and children around PDA.

The cost for this is £40

For Educators.

How may children with anxiety present in the class/school environment and how can we support these children? Unfortunately when support comes, it is too late. How can we help these children before they can no longer access school?

Through a series of illustrations Eliza shares her story of what school anxiety is like for all involved and the importance of empathy.


Eliza Fricker has created a presentation for teachers, psychologists and any other professionals who want to understand the presentation of school anxiety and the effect on children and families.

1 hour presentation.

Cost is £150

Eliza is also able to offer her parents course on PDA to educators or professionals who would like to know more about demand avoidance and how best to support it in at home and school.

1-1.5 hour presentation.

Cost is £150

I hope you enjoy my illustrations.

Please feel free to get in touch for if you would like to book a talk or commission illustrations.

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