6 thoughts on “The Wrong Fit by Eliza Fricker

  1. Hi your video was so heartfelt as a parent and a primary SENCo I have felt/seen both sides of this. There are better ways & more inclusive schools but unfortunately not practised by all. Are you in a parent forum?

    1. Hello Kerry.
      Thanks for your message.
      I always say there was no simple fix for our daughter and do sympathise with many of the teachers involved in our daughters journey too as many wanted to do the right thing but it wasn’t easy. We were fortunate to only meet a few professionals along the way who were truly unsympathetic to our families difficulties. However, unfortunately the impact of years of struggling in school means our daughter is now too school phobic to go (and actually the fall out of when she did go was also horrendous). Our local authority now fund a specialist outreach tutor service to come to our home and they have been excellent. She is much happier and calmer but it is not always ideal and is a big sacrifice for us all to now be so home based.
      I am in a local PACC and MASCOT too- both are very good.

  2. Thank you Eliza for being an advocate for children on the autistic spectrum and equally importantly, an advocate for their parents. I have a granddaughter on the autistic spectrum and I was a special needs teacher for several years. This is the first time I’ve felt that there’s someone out there who is in a similar position as my son, daughter-in-law and myself. You have given hope where there was none.
    Thank you with all my heart for your honesty, integrity and straight curly hair!

    1. Hello Wendy.
      Thanks for your message. I felt the same when I started writing by blog and realise now that unfortunately there are lots going through similar situations. Our current system is not fit for purpose and the evidence is in the numbers of children who struggle to engage with school. Let’s hope that post pandemic that there are some big shake ups to education and they way we view inclusion. Thanks for getting in touch. (I have a zoom meeting later so I’ve attempted a tidy bun in my hair for professional appearances!)

  3. Your video brought me to tears. I feel your anger, frustration and pain. Your experience mirrors ours and my son hasn’t been to school for more than a couple of weeks this year (first year of high school). I’m now aware of PDA and feel we are starting to make sense of our life and how to support our son. It shouldn’t be this hard.

    1. Hi Sarah.
      Thanks for your message. It is so hard and quite lonely, however since writing my blog I realise there are quite a few of us out there. I think primary school our children often scrap by, but secondary school is so much harder. For many children, our daughter included they are too bright for special schools but find the demands of mainstream school overwhelming. Our daughter has been at home for a year and is so much better- less controlling and angry. I don’t think we can ever go back to the systems that broke her (and us). I think our children will get there their own way.x

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